WHY COUPLES THERAPY?
Many people perceive couples therapy as something only needed for those who are already in seriously troubled relationships that are destined to fail. On the contrary, taking a proactive view of couples therapy can help ensure a long and healthy partnership by helping couples hone their communication and connection skills. Addressing serious problems early on can also give you a better chance of working them out in therapy, before negative feelings take over. Many couples face hardships in life and seeking therapy can help you navigate these challenges together. Couple’s therapy is not only necessary during a time of crisis, like a breakup or major life change. It can also be useful to manage recurring conflict or underlying issues. Relationships are very much like a garden. It must be tended to and nurtured to continue to grow and thrive. Most of the time, couples tend to sweep their issues under the rug, and each person in the relationship may continue as if there were never a problem to begin with, only for it to resurface later, possibly during another confrontation, causing even greater problems.
While many couples may think they can handle problems within their relationship themselves, it is not always productive and can cause even more harm to the relationship. In some cases, people can work out relationship conflicts on their own, but if you find yourself having the same argument over and over with your partner without any resolution, it might be time to see a couple’s therapist. Couple’s therapy helps couples of all types recognize and resolve conflicts and improve their relationships. Through therapy, you can make thoughtful decisions about rebuilding and strengthening your relationship or going your separate ways. Couple’s therapy can help partners discuss problems within the marriage, such as an affair, in a controlled environment where both partners can feel secure in the conversation. A skilled couple’s
therapist will not align with either partner. If you are the betraying partner, you should feel accepted in couples therapy, and if you are the betrayed partner, you should feel understood. A couple’s therapist can help each of you move through the trauma while tending to the relationship.
THE GOTTMAN METHOD
Kathryn begins with an initial session to identify the goal for therapy whether it is trying to re-kindle romance, address communication issues, or work through some difficult snags that do not seem to resolve themselves. This is done using the revolutionary Gottman Method, a world-renowned, research backed and revolutionary framework for helping marriage and relationships. This method of therapy is very solution-focused and incredibly hope-giving in its application. This method is based on the research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The Gottman method focuses on what makes marriages succeed or fail and emphasizes a nuts-and-bolts approach to improving the relationship of the clients. By providing specific tools to help deepen friendship and intimacy in the relationship, Kathryn works with couples to help grow an appreciation of the relationship’s strengths and to gently navigate through vulnerabilities
Some of the relationship issues that may be addressed in therapy include:
• Frequent conflict and arguments
• Poor communication
• Emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation
• Specific problems such as sexual difficulties, infidelity, finances, and parenting
Even couples with “normal” levels of conflict may benefit from the Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Gottman-trained therapists aim to help couples build stronger relationships.