WHY COUPLES THERAPY?
Many people perceive couples therapy as something only needed for those who are already in seriously troubled relationships that are destined to fail. On the contrary, taking a proactive view of couples therapy can help ensure a long and healthy partnership by helping couples hone their communication and connection skills. Addressing serious problems early on can also give you a better chance of working them out in therapy, before negative feelings take over. Many couples face hardships in life and seeking therapy can help you navigate these challenges together. Couple’s therapy is not only necessary during a time of crisis, like a breakup or major life change. It can also be useful to manage recurring conflict or underlying issues. Relationships are very much like a garden. It must be tended to and nurtured to continue to grow and thrive. Most of the time, couples tend to sweep their issues under the rug, and each person in the relationship may continue as if there were never a problem to begin with, only for it to resurface later, possibly during another confrontation, causing even greater problems.
While many couples may think they can handle problems within their relationship themselves, it is not always productive and can cause even more harm to the relationship. In some cases, people can work out relationship conflicts on their own, but if you find yourself having the same argument over and over with your partner without any resolution, it might be time to see a couple’s therapist. Couple’s therapy helps couples of all types recognize and resolve conflicts and improve their relationships. Through therapy, you can make thoughtful decisions about rebuilding and strengthening your relationship or going your separate ways. Couple’s therapy can help partners discuss problems within the marriage, such as an affair, in a controlled environment where both partners can feel secure in the conversation. A skilled couple’s
therapist will not align with either partner. If you are the betraying partner, you should feel accepted in couples therapy, and if you are the betrayed partner, you should feel understood. A couple’s therapist can help each of you move through the trauma while tending to the relationship.
THE GOTTMAN METHOD
Kathryn’s training has been intense and extensive. She has undergone all trainings available through the Gottman Institute, is a speaker for two of the workshops, and is on the 24-month Certification Track. The Gottman Method, a world-renowned, research backed and revolutionary framework for helping marriages and relationships is her guide when it comes to treating couples in her practice. This method is based on the research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The Gottman method focuses on what makes marriages succeed or fail and emphasizes a nuts-and-bolts approach to improving relationships By providing specific tools to help deepen friendship and intimacy in the relationship, Kathryn works with couples to help grow an appreciation of the relationship’s strengths and to gently navigate through vulnerabilities
Some of the relationship issues that Kathryn has been trained to address are:
EMOTIONALLY DISTANT COUPLES, LIVING PARALLEL LIVES,
DIFFICULTIES AFTER BABY IS BORN, OR OTHER ADJUSTMENTS
INTIMACY ISSUES, PORNOGRAPHY ISSUES, PARENTING PROBLEMS, DIFFICULTY WITH IN-LAWS, ETC
Even couples with “normal” levels of conflict benefit from the Gottman Method. Kathryn’s aim is to facilitate stronger relationships that are not only equipped with the tools to manage any issues that arise , but to expertly co-create, what she calls,
The Couple’s Logo:
the intentional building of purpose and deeper meaning .